Book Review: It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken

Posted on 15 May 2008 by Chastidy Craig

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I came across this book quite randomly at the library and picked it up because it had a cute cover and was written by the same guy who wrote “He’s Just Not That Into You”, and I really enjoyed that book. This book is about the entire process that occurs when you end a relationship. From the breakup itself to the bingeing, drinking, crying escapades that ensue afterward- this book covers it.

The book is written by Greg Behrendt and his wife, Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt, and is based very much on their experiences as well as the experiences of the anonymous people they use for anecdotes throughout the book. Many of the tales are funny, some are sad, and others are plain ridiculous. Whatever you are going through, there is a story in the book that can come close. There is always something to relate to.

One of the things that I really appreciated about this book is how they point out that just because things don’t work out in a relationship it doesn’t mean either of you is a bad person. Also, they provide helpful journaling exercises and many fill in the blank workbook-type activities to help you sort through your feelings. Their suggestions range from just plain smart (60 days without contact with your ex) to completely silly (re-arrange your furniture). However, in the end, it’s all about getting you back on track to be a better, more fabulous, single version of you. That way, as the book states, when the right person comes along you’ll be ready for them.

While I really enjoyed all the pep talking, at one point the lingo they use in the book got on my nerves. They talk about how you’re a “superfox”, and while I’m all for a self-esteem party and affirmations, I don’t like that word. By the end of the book I was cringing every time they said it- literally- teeth-on-edge-if-you-say-that-again-I’ll-stab-you-with-a-spork annoying. But besides that part, I really enjoyed this book. It made me feel better about myself, and I’m not even going through a breakup. It just reminds you that YOUR life is about YOU. It’s self-empowering, nurturing and even somewhat indulgent to read this book, and I highly recommend it.

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