If one needs proof that humanity is lost, the pick up line is exhibit A.  Guys are in bars, guys want to meet women, the pick up line is the way to break the ice.

I have often pondered why women do not try the pick up line themselves?  It would be so much more affective in your hands.  I think I would be rather flattered if some strange girl came up and tried one.  Here is the way I think you ladies could try it.  A lady comes up to me and asks, “Are you demonic?”

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Where did all the time go?

I’m a single woman in my (gulp) late twenties. I do not have a boyfriend or children. I do not travel much. Really, the only sort of quirky thing about my life is that I have birds…instead of cats. It really should be a simple life, but somehow I just do not have enough hours in the day.

I have a good job. Of course it isn’t perfect. While it isn’t a bad job, it doesn’t pay enough to keep up with my bills and life style. To make up the difference, I work more. I write for a couple websites, design sites, and write novels and novellas. What started as a social venture soon became a way of paying for my social life when I shifted from just singing Karaoke to helping run a karaoke show or two a week.

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I have never been one to dodge and weave when it comes to my feelings on dating, marriage, and the opposite sex altogether. While it might serve others to be a little more reserved or allusive, that’s just not my style. There is no need to keep the emotional “walls” when being totally open and upfront serves as something of a tool to weed out those that couldn’t handle my life experiences. At the age of 30, it is becoming more and more commonplace to find myself sitting across the table from a lady with a similar emotional background. Honestly, if you’re 30 and not married or divorced then you will probably fall into the minority in the dating scene.

Which leads me to my point: I have spent the last couple of years dating and finding myself in short-term relationships. I have met a lot of women through the more traditional means (i.e. through friends, family,work) as well as the “new traditional” means (match.com and other various internet sites). Continue Reading

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Summer is quickly approaching, which means that many of us will be perusing the bookstands for some beach reading. Instead of numbing your brain with the latest grocery store checkout throwaway, why not reach for a romantic classic? It will tug on your heartstrings, as well as enrich your mind. Many of us read these classics in school, but it doesn't hurt to revisit them. In fact, these stories evoke more emotion and inspire more creative imagination than contemporary romance novels.

Below are five love stories everyone should read. Do yourself a favor and check them out.

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As a single man of almost 6 years, I have had my share of experiences in the dating world. I’ve gone the usual routes of running up monster tabs at the bars, reading John Keats poetry at Barnes & Noble on a Sunday, and I got a dog just so I had a reason to go to the dogpark. I even plan my grocery shopping around the best nights to meet women at Central Market. I almost resorted to signing my daughter up for every sport possible just for the visibility. Luckily, I got wise before I had to spend a decade writing checks to cover her therapist bills.

By wise, I mean I was smart enough to click on a few different hyperlinks for internet dating. On the surface it would be easy to lump internet dating into one single entity, but that would be the equivalent of saying that hooking up with someone from the bar is the same as your mother fixing you up with a girl from her church. They just aren’t the same things. For those lacking real experience with what I call the multiple levels of internet dating ™ (I haven’t actually trademarked it….yet), allow me to expand.

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OK, so to all my single people out there who think they are ready to be in a relationship, what is really going on? Online dating sites say that 80% or more single people find love on their sites. Now, most of us think "Wow! Maybe that percentage includes me!" And with our hearts wide open to all the wonderful possibilities of love, we set up our profiles, take our very best pictures, and truly believe anything is possible.

Then you anxiously await the first round of messages to come pouring in. Once they do and you go through them you find one in every ten to be exciting. You talk to them and you get that "Butterfly Effect" in your stomach and you stay up later than usual on the computer or maybe you even exchange phone numbers. The next step is you start to feel like "This could be the One" you will find yourself falling in love and then just as fast as it starts it is over.

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I’m sitting at Panera Bread with Nathan Holman, wondering how to best help him find the right woman. Well, maybe I’m not so concerned about the right woman as he is… I just wanted to see if I could play a part in it. So I brainstormed (yes, this is what I do with my spare minutes), and came up with a killer idea.

Pick-Up lines are so last decade. It’s time for the pick-up line to step into modern age. So here’s the plan:

Step 1: Pick out the woman in a cafe (take your time… find one suitable to your tastes)

Step 2: Make sure she’s not wearing a ring (that’s always a mood killer)

Step 3: Get your camera phone ready for a picture

Step 4: Plan your route to the restroom strategically for at least two strafing runs

Step 5: Take her picture

Step 6: Return to your laptop

Step 7: Write a blog about the most beautiful woman sitting in your cafe, how you asked her out on a date, and she said yes

Step 8: Add the picture you took

Step 9: Post the blog with her photo

Step 10: Pick up your laptop

Step 11: Carry it over to her table

Step 12: Set it down gently in front of her

Step 13: Calmly take your seat across the table

Step 14: Smoothly swivel your laptop to face her

Step 15: Ask her, “I was wondering if you could make this come true….”

Step 16: Get her number

******Emergency Step 17***********

If she happens to look horrified that you took her picture without her consent and she attempts to call the police or the store manager, grab your computer and run like hell…

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What does a dating service have to do with a Christian? I know a good majority would argue that Christian faith and dating services have absolutely no common ground. Not two years ago, I was one of those people. Today, I must admit to having some serious doubts as to the lack of faith those Christians claim a person displays when utilizing a dating service. Is it proof of a lack of faith? Or is it actually a step of faith? There are people I know, respectable Christians, who have chosen to use eHarmony as a tool for finding a mate.

There are dozens of services, both brick-and-mortar and online establishments. There are scientists and mathematicians who have dedicated their lives to one purpose: to calculate the best formula for deciding an excellent romantic match. eHarmony is one such enterprise. The people I know who have chosen to join eHarmony will remain nameless simply because I think too many people are foolishly judgmental and I do not wish to give the ignorant any ammunition to slander wonderful people. My concern is mainly for the many wonderful women out there who have had little to no luck finding a quality Christian man among their peers.

It’s not that godly men do not exist… of course not. But I would dare say that the statistics do not lie when they tell us that there are more women in the Church than men. Statistically, women are at a disadvantage. Then you also have issues like a woman’s belief that she should trust in God to deliver a godly man to her doorstep. This belief system has been taught for several generations at least, resulting in the distorted teaching that for a woman to take even the slightest advancing step or display of interest toward a man is to prove distrust in God’s power, goodness, and purposes. While it is true that it is unhealthy for either a man or a woman to obsess about finding a mate, there is a significant difference between obsessive fear and concern.

A man who finds a wife finds a good thing. That is scriptural. To find a good thing means most often to first desire a good thing. And a man who finds is most often a man who searches. After all, he who seeks shall find, right? Now let’s consider woman. In the church above all other places, she faces a question of her identity. It is debated how involved a woman can be in this or that ministry, public service, etc. How is the husband to be head of the home if his wife is his boss, after all? Good question, and one worth much consideration… only not here. Just because we may find ourselves struggling to balance the delicate nature of male/female relationships does not mean that we must project these concerns onto the woman and refuse to allow her the opportunity to seek a husband.

In most cases, a woman proposing to a man would seem awkward to me, though I have heard of instances where this is even appropriate. Given even the objection that a forward woman is too controlling or powerful, it doesn’t explain why a woman should suffer to leave her fate up to men who may or may not even know she is interested or willing. Then there is the issue of availability. How many decent single men are available at your church? Five? Ten? Fifty? Perhaps so, though I would assume that the number is greatest within the ages of 21-26 and significantly drop off steadily afterwards. So you get your choice of many immature young men and very little else.

What if you are 30 years old and the closest you can get to a godly man is an eternal child? What if you are 40? 50? 60? Life throws so many curve balls at us that it is not uncommon to meet a woman who, for one reason or another, finds herself near or past her child bearing years and yet still without any marital prospects. Some women are fine with this. Hey, marriage isn’t for everyone. Some women prefer to dedicate their lives to service, ministry, work, or their families. These can be very honorable decisions. Some women ardently desire a husband, however, and we dare not force upon them the title of “spinster” simply because they did not find their spouses quickly or easily. Some women are shy and do not give much evidence of romantic interest ever. To these I feel sorry, for their own unintentional lack of public expression has contributed to their loneliness.

What is the answer? How is a woman older than 27 to find a decent man with whom she is compatible? eHarmony is a possible solution. In the period of one year, more than 33,000 eHarmony members were married. That is impressive. Of course, many of that number have or will divorce, sadly. That is a statistic which is true of any segment of the married population. Statistically, the majority do not honor their covenant committments forever. People choose the easy way out. It is more convenient to divorce than to resolve differences, insults, injuries, and betrayals. That is no excuse for not using a service like eHarmony…. (More to come)

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