Of Course You Have Real Friends… Don’t You?
Posted on 04 February 2008 by Cherame Markwardt
If you're like me, you have met many people you call a friend. But what is a friend, really? There are several different types. There's your user-friendly type. You know: the ones that are there for you when there is something that can benefit them with anything they are needing. Then there's the half of the time friend when you don't really count on them but every once in a great while will surprise you, the party friends that don't really care about you but are always up for a good night on the town and the Best friend that says they are there with you until the end! But what is a true friend?
In my opinion, a friend is someone who is there no matter what time you call and gets you out of whatever trouble you have made; the one who is there to do the dirt when no one else will. The one who accepts you in all your glory. The one that you call when someone has hurt you beyond repair, who will cry with you when you are hurting.
Throughout our lives, we encounter so many types of "friends" and truly believe that they are with us no matter what, but then there comes a time when just like love, friendship is tested. And sometimes, just like a bad breakup, you can lose your best friend. Who are these people we let into our daily lives to have full advantage of our weakest moments and trust that they will not let us fall? And when they do, we feel as if we we're fooled and screwed over? They are EVERYONE. They are you and me.
We never mean to hurt anyone, but we all have made our mistakes as a friend. If you counted how many friends you have, could you count them on one hand or two? Would you trust them with the very last breath you take? Isn't it scary to think of situations where you have compromised yourself to help out a friend; someone who now you don't even keep in contact with.
Friends are liars: deceitful, lovable, caring, and honest people. But how do we know which friends are the real deal? Tell me, Who really are your friends?
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February 4th, 2008 at 3:39 pm
I’ve been blessed with some really great friendships, all of which I simply stumbled upon, and contrary to popular belief, they don’t really take a lot of upkeep. I’ve been lucky enough to only lose one or two close friends, but in hindsight, I have always questioned whether they were really that close to begin with.
February 4th, 2008 at 4:16 pm
Being totally honest, I’d have to say that I don’t really know who my friends are until a year or two has passed. That comes from years of trusting people prematurely, only to find that their easy words often mean next to nothing when it counts.
I spend more time with people who are not officially deemed “friend” yet, but that’s due to circumstances beyond my control. I know who I can trust and depend on. Everyone else is either a future friend or not a friend at all.
February 4th, 2008 at 7:31 pm
Americans are known to make friends very quickly and then forget very quickly. In cultures such as India or Latin America to call someone a friend means that they are very important to you. Here we call them a friend because they are sitting next to you at a bar and rout for the same team you do.
One of my goals for 2008 was to spend more time developing the good friendships and less on the buddy at the bar kind.
February 4th, 2008 at 9:04 pm
Ah…friends…that terms is used so lightly, so freely. I have had very few friends but OH SO MANY acquiantances. I have to admit, after all these years, my best friend is my little sister.
February 5th, 2008 at 11:23 am
I believe there are those friends that come into your life but for a season and after that season is gone you look back on them with fond loving thoughts. And then there are those friends (although few) that whether you talk to them daily, weekly or whatever, they are there to tell your deepest secrets too, and you always pick up where you left off. And then there are those friends that we have yet to meet. I count it a blessing to have and have had those people in my life I can truly call “friend”.