Thursday May 17th 2012

Public Relations: Not as Glamorous as Samantha Jones Wants You to Believe

The media can be informative, but the media can also be deceiving. Ever since I was a wee lass, I have always been told not to believe everything I read or see; be critical, and do not take everything so literally. Unfortunately, the Hollywood bug had bitten at a young age, and boy did it ever sink its teeth into me. Glamour to the right; lavish lifestyles to the left. Everywhere I looked, there was some kind of celebrity or rising starlet who caught my eye.  

After years of watching Sex and the City, idolizing the lives of the four women, one of the characters drastically stood out to me; Samantha Jones. She owns her own Public Relations company, rubs elbows with the best of the best in New York City, throws first class parties and attends her fair share of them. She knows all the best hot spots in the city and has a Rolodex overflowing with names and numbers of the biggest, best and most elite of New York.

For eight months, I studied at the post graduate level Public Relations, and I went into the program thinking that PR was more like a lifestyle than a career. Take Samantha Jones for example, she is her own boss, she is fierce and she makes a lot of money (and let us not forget about her amazing fashion sense either). All of these desirable things had been over shadowed by her age. This character was in her late 40s on the show, which would mean she had to work for everything she had and obtained in life.

On the first day of class for my Principles of Public Relations class, the students were instructed to write down what he and she thought Public Relations was, and what it meant to each of us. I chuckled to myself as visions of Samantha Jones briskly walked through my head in her $500 a pair Manolo Blahnik shoes. Five star parties: check. Elite guest lists: check. Raking in the cash: check, check, check. Samantha was living the (fake) life I so desired to be living, and I thought that this was an accurate portrayal of the average Public Relations professional.

Little did I know just how wrong I really was. All of my pleasant thoughts and dreams were suddenly put on hold as a sat dumbfounded in grammar class. Who knew that Public Relations involved such hard and dedicated work, long hours, time management skills and proper spelling and grammar at all time, among the extensive laundry list of dos and don’ts?  Certainly not me.

As classes resumed, I could not help but feel out of place. Was this really what I wanted to do with my life? Why had the media (but more importantly, Samantha Jones) forsaken me? I felt as though I was falling into a perpetual downward spiral. “I don’t remember signing up for this,” I would tell myself almost everyday, “Why isn’t this more glamourous? More fun?”

As weeks and months passes, I became more comfortable with what I was learning and somewhat willingly disregarded (at least some) of those silly hopes and dreams I had been building up since my younger years. Public Relations just was not about throwing and attending lavish parties, it was about networking and putting on events (see the difference?). We learned that not everything was going to come easy, we had to work our way up the ladder to success and recognition, it just was not going to be handed to us or have it dropped off in our laps. PR is about communicating with the public and the media, not hiding behind a “No comment” statement.

So much was to be taught and learned during my short time in the post graduate program. Computer skills needed to be refreshed and updated, intense sessions of grammar and writing could not be over looked, and not to mention, correctly planning and executing events played a vital role of my time.

The biggest wake up call to reality was learning that issuing a “No comment” statement is not only completely wrong, but that it also makes any PR practitioner look foolish and that he or she may be up to something. I don’t think that I have had anything drilled into my head more than this. All those celebrity publicists who have been using this statement since the dawn of Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous have been doing it wrong. Who knew?

PR just is not about throwing and attending parties, rubbing elbows or even raking in the money. I am now able to take what I have learned and feel confident to go out into the workplace. I will be able to rub elbows through networking, put on fabulous events that everyone will want to attend, all while making a name for myself as I begin my ascent to the top of the ladder of success while looking fabulous, just like Samantha Jones. 

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  • http://www.myspace.com/iamnix Dr. Danger

    Rachel, we already know that you are wicked fabulous already. AND FYI, the door hardware industry is nowhere near as fabulous as Willie Loman made it seem.

  • Michael Callaway

    Well said, nothing is ever as great in real life as they make it look on tv or movies. All things require hard work and a lot of things that no one really would want to do.

    My advice to anyone is this, do not find yourself in your job. Find yourself in your passions and let your job be the best job you can get to pay the bills.

  • Ashleigh

    I too fall into the, “Wow, I want that life,” spiral, and I constantly have to remind myself that I’m only 26, and most people’s lives which are the object of my envy are at least 6 years older than me, and in many cases 10 to 20 years older than me. I’ve got a lot of living left to do. If I were to take a trip in a time machine back to their lives when they were 26, their lives would look much more like mine now…not so enviable after all. Just another reason to take pleasure in the present and make the most of your happiness now instead of saying, “I’ll be happy when I get x or when y happens.” X or Y may never happen, but life happens everyday.

  • http://www.myspace.com/ChrisPar Chris

    Greattt….
    lol
    I am a dude who actually enjoys watching sex and the city, and was inspired by the lifestyle of Samantha Jones. I mean having that job would be hella chill because I’ve thrown some pretty kick ass parties back in my day. I’m actually going to be a second year at UC Santa Barbara and have no idea what I want to do for the rest of my life. First it was radiologist, then PR, but after reading your bit, you’ve helped give me a reality check. I really appreciate you speaking out about this. So funny that there are other people out there with the same mindset–”Samantha Jones is the shit, I’m going to be a PR like her and live that life”. lol, I don’t know what I was thinking, but thank God I still have time to relook over my options! Again I appreciate your honesty and am glad you’ve come to accept the realities of the PR. Good luck with everything you do!

  • Will

    Rachel,
    I thoroughly enjoyed reading this post. I will begin college this fall and I plan on majoring in public relations; I’ve always been a hard worker, I love networking, and I will stop at nothing to achieve my goal. After reading your description of the challenges of the PR field I am actually more reassured than ever. How have things been going for you?

  • http://helsinkiwinner.wordpress.com Rachel

    Will,

    I have completed the program and officially graduated last month. I also landed a job not even a month after finishing in April.

    Things are going really well. I find that I am busy 90% of the time, but it is a great kind of busy. The program really helped me understand what PR is all about, and how everything functions, and I’m happy that I took the extra year for studies.

    If you have any questions, email me, and we will chat.

    helsinki_winner@hotmail.com

  • Lindsey R.

    My Public Relations Professor wanted us to read ANY article about Public Relations and then send the author his definition of Public relations… so here it is.

    Public Relations is the management function which evaluates public attitudes, identifies the policies and procedures of an individual or an organization with the public interest , and plans, executes and evaluates a program of action to earn public understanding and acceptance.

    Thanks so much!

  • http://www.culturefeast.com Daniel Dessinger

    Well, Lindsey, yours qualifies as one of stranger comments we’ve received. Please ask your professor why we should read his definition? If he doesn’t have the time to comment himself, he’s accomplishing nothing.

    I’m trying to decide whether your professor is a tool.

  • veronika

    I can't believe I am reading this 2 years after it has been posted.Even if I had read it 2 years ago I wouln't have understood it as well as now when not only do I understand it but feel it. I am currently in the same position, associating public relations with Samantha Jones. Even though deep inside I knew this was foolish of me, all the glamour portrayed through her imidge was too great for me to want to admit it. I would be more than thankfull if you can give me your e-mail so I can contact you. I am asking this because I feel I can benefit from your experience and open my eyes to the reality. Thank you.

  • http://ericacampbell007.wordpress.com/2010/04/19/public-relationsthe-fabulous-life/ Public Relations,The Fabulous Life? « J'aime des relations publiques

    [...] reading some blog post on the topic (check out this post from Culture Feast ) I realized that many people, myself included, found out pretty quickly that the public relations [...]

  • http://laurenswitzer.wordpress.com/2010/05/05/you-think-you-know-pr-think-again/ You Think You Know PR? Think Again. | Socially PRagmatic

    [...] media management, community relations and crisis management. The character, Samantha Jones, from “Sex and the City” is most definitely the exception, not the [...]

  • bec

    haha until now i actually thought Samantha Jones's Job in public relations was the real thing… i'm so glad that you have posted this up… thank you

  • http://nicoleraisch.wordpress.com/2010/08/25/a-look-at-tv-representations-of-pr/ A Look at TV Representations of PR « Nicole Raisch

    [...] -Sex and the City (1998): The first example that popped into my head is the Sex and the City character, Samantha Jones. Both men and women recognize Sam as the sex-pot PR businesswoman on the HBO hit show. She owns her own PR business, throws parties for celebs and has every elite New Yorker’s home phone in her Rolodex. Read this post comparing a student’s opinion on Samantha’s view on PR on the real-world equivalent: http://www.culturefeast.com/public-relations-not-as-glamorous-as-samantha-jones-wants-you-to-believe... [...]

  • http://odonnellonline.ie/2010/12/pr-pro-and-puppy-kicker-gives-bloggers-a-reality-check/ PR Pro & Puppy-Kicker Gives Bloggers a Reality Check | O'Donnell Online

    [...] often has an unfairly bad reputation. On the one hand you have the ‘Sex and the City‘ view of PR as one big party with lots of high heels, hair flicking and alcohol. On the other [...]

  • http://provoque.co.uk/2011/02/24/myth-about-public-relations-i-thought-it-would-be-more-glamorous/ Myth About Public Relations: “I thought it would be more glamorous” | Provoque

    [...] This post will be helpful especially to PR amateurs and those dreaming about choosing PR in their career path. Recently I’ve read an post of, then, postgraduate PR student – Daniel Dessinger dispelling glamour of PR profession. [...]

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